Sending our kids to day care is a major decision. It takes a lot of courage, strength, and determination to make this choice.
I am a stay at home mom since my first child is born. I was not able to send my kid to day care and given a chance he never wished to. Was I a little too caring? Did I make my child a Mamma’s boy? Was I the one who doesn’t want children to become independent? And so forth. I don’t know. But it was the decision I took twelve years back and I think it helped means him both.
Am I not a learned person? Am I being orthodox? Am I trying to stay away from industry? Am I not ambitious? Yes there are thousands of other questions which surface once a new mother takes her charge. Not everyone has a blessing to have grandparents taking care of kids and allowing their parents to work. In India, with many of them do but I guess everyone has played their part in their life. So expecting grandparents to take care of your kids is little overwhelming. This happens only if both families depend on each other else the only option is Day care!!
Everyone’s navigates it differently and learns a lot during the process. It’s about both mother and child’s future. Nowadays with skyrocketing prices both parents need to work just for survival and child’s schooling and other expenses. In such cases, day cares are a must!!
I just thought of doing both. It was tough. It does payment me less. But it was possible. I tried to give an ample amount of time to my kids. I read stories and colored pages with them. We did experiments together. I played as much as I could and had little fights. I worked of course as a freelancer when the kids were busy.
There can be disadvantages for kids and a few frustrations for mother but you will have time with them. And that I think is precious. It never comes back. Kids give us far more than we do.
Just because it’s a long vacation, doesn’t mean children must be sent to a camp.They don’t always need to be taught something or the other, let them learn on their own, make mistakes.
Children do not need counseling just because they aren’t doing anything. It’s Ok. They will find something to do or innovate. If they feel bored sometimes… it doesn’t have to be the parents’ decision to “fix” that.
If a child doesn’t understand math from grade five to twelve, the world is not going to end. If they never learn a foreign language, it won’t cause an apocalypse. If the house is filled with soap bubbles, it’s not a waste of time. Floating paper boats in a pan of water is also not a waste of time. Not every experience has to be listed on a bio-data. Obviously, these are my personal opinions but I think coming generation needs that. Be free and learn. Don’t force teach them every other thing….let them explore at least when they are not in school… Whether to let them go to school or not…whoaa…thats another blog topic…for now…it’s a just patience… Parents…be patient…things will fall in place.
I know, just because the sky is full of clouds, it doesn’t mean it must rain. Just because a thought arises, it doesn’t mean it must* be expressed right away… But what to do with the writer within… It is no where near to patience!!
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